Umbilical Required!
The Burden to NEED to be NEEDED beyond NEEDED
Do you know or have you ever been generous? Do you like being needed? Does being needed sometimes become your own personal penance? Some of us need to be needed beyond or moreso to the point of not being able to also look out for ones own well-being...needing til it hurts. What do you do when your generosity and giving really only perpetuate someone elses helpless complaining dependence on your dependence to be needed? [I know that long string makes sense to the right brains]
Sometimes being a friend or family requires you to make some tough decisions. Every baby must be weened; they must transition from milk to meat/protein. Otherwise the streets would be littered with grown women.......oh, nevermind, you know where this is going. Point taken. Part of the issue is the person in need; the other is about the discernment of the other party to know the difference between need and used. Which individual is more broken; the needer needing to be needed to the point of harm or the needer who never stops needing?
Some say that others had a face only a mother could love. Clearly mothers have a greater capacity to love than anybody else. In fact, one might argue, thank God for women or all the men would have killed each other. Hmmm..I can only justify such a statement by saying I could always delay or "discuss" my disagreements with my mother; with father, I just sucked it up and got it done. Discussion is for politicians.
With the evolution of Dr. Phils and Oprahs; its all become someone else's fault and we are free to whine and blame; but take no responsibility. If I burned myself with coffee; then its your fault for not telling me coffee is supposed to be hot. I am always amazed that certain people are "hailed" as the newest and greatest guru for repeating nothing new but what you've already known all your life. Don't walk into the street with cars coming! Duh... When will we be needed enuf? What does this degree of being needed really indicate about ourselves and what are we getting from being indespensible or umbilical?
Why is it so hard to say NO? Its shorter than yes. It's typically cheaper too. In a time of unlimited credit card ethics, aren't we really more inclined to just deal with it later. Maybe somehow by "later" I may be better off or just get away with it or I will just deal with it then...hmmmm. You can't ungrow a child, you cant unkill or murder - even if you're really sorry now. No rewinds; but you will probably get some playbacks. You cannot get back one second that you didnt take to say how much you cared; you can only take another moment; gone is gone. Entire countries could exist on our monthly waste or careless discards. Do you think we really want a hybrid car, lead-free toys that cost more, wait ten minutes later for airport security........really?
Perhaps its not where the buck stops; but where it starts. Can we tell the difference between "need" and "want." Generations before us made great sacrifices for the future generations; how will a tattered note that says "April Fool's Day" go over with our children's children when they ask what's a tree? air was once free?
Do you know or have you ever been generous? Do you like being needed? Does being needed sometimes become your own personal penance? Some of us need to be needed beyond or moreso to the point of not being able to also look out for ones own well-being...needing til it hurts. What do you do when your generosity and giving really only perpetuate someone elses helpless complaining dependence on your dependence to be needed? [I know that long string makes sense to the right brains]
Sometimes being a friend or family requires you to make some tough decisions. Every baby must be weened; they must transition from milk to meat/protein. Otherwise the streets would be littered with grown women.......oh, nevermind, you know where this is going. Point taken. Part of the issue is the person in need; the other is about the discernment of the other party to know the difference between need and used. Which individual is more broken; the needer needing to be needed to the point of harm or the needer who never stops needing?
Some say that others had a face only a mother could love. Clearly mothers have a greater capacity to love than anybody else. In fact, one might argue, thank God for women or all the men would have killed each other. Hmmm..I can only justify such a statement by saying I could always delay or "discuss" my disagreements with my mother; with father, I just sucked it up and got it done. Discussion is for politicians.
With the evolution of Dr. Phils and Oprahs; its all become someone else's fault and we are free to whine and blame; but take no responsibility. If I burned myself with coffee; then its your fault for not telling me coffee is supposed to be hot. I am always amazed that certain people are "hailed" as the newest and greatest guru for repeating nothing new but what you've already known all your life. Don't walk into the street with cars coming! Duh... When will we be needed enuf? What does this degree of being needed really indicate about ourselves and what are we getting from being indespensible or umbilical?
Why is it so hard to say NO? Its shorter than yes. It's typically cheaper too. In a time of unlimited credit card ethics, aren't we really more inclined to just deal with it later. Maybe somehow by "later" I may be better off or just get away with it or I will just deal with it then...hmmmm. You can't ungrow a child, you cant unkill or murder - even if you're really sorry now. No rewinds; but you will probably get some playbacks. You cannot get back one second that you didnt take to say how much you cared; you can only take another moment; gone is gone. Entire countries could exist on our monthly waste or careless discards. Do you think we really want a hybrid car, lead-free toys that cost more, wait ten minutes later for airport security........really?
Perhaps its not where the buck stops; but where it starts. Can we tell the difference between "need" and "want." Generations before us made great sacrifices for the future generations; how will a tattered note that says "April Fool's Day" go over with our children's children when they ask what's a tree? air was once free?
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